I started Candy & Couture over a year ago as a creative outlet for myself – as a sort of online pinboard of information for myself on things that I like and love. As I have a passion for music and fashion, this became my blog’s primary identity, however I do like to mix it up sometimes with restaurant reviews and the odd “Male vs. Female Debate” article.
However, as I have developed my blog over this past year, I almost decided to give up on my blog a couple of months back due to certain bloggers behaviour and overall bitchiness. I’m not a bitch. Anyone who knows me would tell you the same. But unlike some bloggers, I didn’t start this blog to be invited to events. Nor do I blog to get freebies from designers or PR companies. I blog, because I love what I do! It’s very simple. I will stay awake until the early hours of the morning editing images and putting together posts, because I genuinely love to write and to research.
Being a blogger, especially in Dubai, you get to witness certain “Blogger Wars” almost on a daily basis. Now if one blogger does a “Dress Up” feature with a boutique one month and another blogger does something similar the next, does that give them a right to say that their idea was copied or stolen!? Just because you have a video blog and another blogger starts a similar feature on their blog, does that give you a right to bitch about them? And when did any blogger have the right to say that another blogger can’t use the term “Head over Heels” in a blog post, because they have used it on their blog? Therefore this was an ‘infringement’ of their posts and if the post wasn’t removed, they would ask the blog host to have the blog removed completely!? Are you kidding me!?
Girls are catty creatures. They can be soooo damn sweet to your face and then the moment your back is turned, they’ll turn on you like a swarm of killer bees. Then there are the girls that just want to know you to get what they can from you. Do I have connections? Yes I do. Am I just going to give them to you? Are you mad?! I have worked really hard to develop relationships with people over several years. And yes, I said “worked”. Not living off mummy and daddy which I was accused of by a fellow blogger. Puh-lease! Get to know me first before you start making assumptions or judgments about me.
The reason for this very public rant is that as my blog has developed this year, so has my understanding of blogger’s etiquette. I’m not like a lot of people who will kiss ass until my lips are chapped. I will however support local talent and designers if I truly like their products and designs. I will attend events, but not just to been seen and have my picture taken in the hope that it lands in the society pages of Ahlan! or OK magazine. I will take silly pictures with Fishfayce, because they are cute mementos that I like to keep and display on my desktop. I will not however pretend to be someone who I am not and therefore I will support fellow bloggers who are respectful of others rather than those who have a superiority complex over other bloggers. Word to the wise – you don’t.
I have met some incredible people over the past year and landed roles and opportunities that may not have come about had it not have been for this blog. Interviewing Roberto Cavalli, meeting Henry Holland and getting the inside scoop of Usher’s wardrobe are just some of the things I was able to do this year as a direct result of being a ‘blogger’ and its something that I will forever be grateful for.
I will always be completely indebted to my blog readers who always make me smile with comments and emails, especially when I go AWOL (usually the result of too many late nights out in Dubai!) You absolutely rock! And finally, I’d just like to thank my friends who gave me a kick up the arse when I contemplated ‘quitting’ from blogging because I couldn’t stand the drama and bitchiness! I will continue to blog because I absolutely LOVE it. No other reason than that.